`The Mind of a Manwhore (Yet another way in which girls are dumb.)

I over-heard a co-worker the other day verbally whipping the men in her life, or her friends’ lives, or the whole living world for having the condition of wanderlust. I actually think that the word she used, meshed in between many other explicatives was ‘manwhore’. I prefer wanderlust over ‘manwhore’ not only because in my view it better describes most men’s condition of monogo-gina-phobia – but also because it accentuates the fact that my man-hating co-worker is dumber than I am.

 

It is not necessarily that she or her female counter-parts are dumb (blogs may follow establishing otherwise) – maybe they are just uneducated about things when it comes to men and their sexuality. After all women have long been hesitant to explore their own bodies – why should we expect any different for the dark, inner most parts of a man’s sexual-psyche. 

http://www.arhp.org/2005MenstruationSurvey/factsheet.cfm

But I am tired of the women out there who use their feeble minds in an attempt to ‘deciefer’ the ever complex, perplexing puzzle of a man’s playing penis. All types of women from the ghostly effective house-mom with ‘eyes behind her head’ to the teachers of our children (shouldn’t they all be?), to even the female scientists who have so proudly ‘made it in a man’s field’ have the most trouble trying to figure out the answer to this question. And the fact that now, today, in our ever-progressive, post-evolution society, women illustrate their ignorance as blatantly as ever is even more enraging. 

And men are the imbeciles, the ogres, the oafs and more primitive of souls?

 

And it is not that men have women all figured out or don’t curse the heavens at the difficulty they have trying to understand women and how to make them happy. But books line shelves in stores about that. Men have made an attempt at understanding their opposing gender. Women on the other hand, at least in the current state of affairs (pardon the pun), seem to prefer to sit back and scratch their heads (or men’s eyes out – in anger) asking, “Why? …Why? …Why did he cheat on me? …Why does he look at/check out other girls?” This just gives further merit to the mass of men screaming the mantras that re-enforce the notion that most women are just bitches – further perpetuating the cycle of the battle of the sexes.

 

So here, I attempt to relieve at least one skirmish in that battle and offer my home team, the men of the world, a strategic and factual defense and a reason, to women, to give up the good fight. Because the damned thing is that when these women’s men do cheat or look at other women it is the MEN that get blamed for the subsequent failure of the primary relationship or marriage. They are the ones crucified for being a ‘two timer’, a ‘bastard’, an ‘asshole’ or even a ‘manwhore’.  This is interesting since it is the woman’s own ignorance and lack of education that perhaps induced the man to wander in the first place – and certainly it is her own lack of intelligence on the matter that invariably spurs the inward criticism, low self-esteem, and selfish “what is wrong with me” viewpoint in regards to their partner’s wanderlust.

 

Face it ladies. Many times we men cheat on you because you are ugly and overweight – but not all of the time. The crux of our inclination towards infidelity is this: 

 

1.) It sounds overly simple, but one reason we men will sleep with another woman is because we can. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for us to turn it down.

 

   

 

2.) It boosts our ego. Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex, strong, powerful and potent and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. Men spent thousands of years outside of the home and the village, before that, exploring options for betterment so there is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger. 

 

3.) Believe it or not, connecting with you women is important to us men. When we feel connected we feel safe to expose our insecurities and vulnerabilities. When we aren’t connecting with you we fear that those same vulnerabilities or slips in performance will be used against us. When we meet a woman has more in common with us that you do, who loves football or plays golf we are very tempted to capitalize on that connection. We may check out if we are compatible with her under the sheets also. 

 

4.) In line with feeling connected we men are also very sensitive to the criticism you women give us. We will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something. Our performance is a keystone to our identity, and when it is criticized, ridiculed, or unappreciated or under-appreciated we will look for someone else to appreciate our performance.

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5.) If the sex is scarce, redundant or unsatisfying men may wander. It is as simple as that. Sex is what drives men the most and if you think differently, you are wrong. Everything they do, from working to buy the nice car to working on the family car at home is to one, and only one, end – their acquisition of sex. Men are entertained more by nothing else. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try. Men’s tastes are varied and wide – they are designed that way to keep their se drive high so that in the evolutionary aspect of things they will do their part in propagating the species. If you do not keep things fresh and interesting for your mate, ladies, he will be apt to stray.Imagine having an I-Pod with only the same one-hundred songs on it. Wouldn’t you be inclined to change the playlist?

 

 

 

But that’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners. I know some women who have cried at their inability to understand their partner’s choice for the target of his affair. Women are designed to be infinitely attractive to men – how boring is it to have the same meal every night? Controlling, constricting, possessing and patrolling him will only increase the chances that he will stray because he will not feel connected to you. If you want to truly connect  with your man, if you truly want to decrease (you can never totally erase the chances) the chances that he will cheat – try to learn about and understand his sexual interests, desires, wants, cravings, fantasies and dreams – even those that might scare you. We men do not require a lot to be happy – this generalization about us is true. We mostly require our interests and egos to be entertained. If you can do that – you are well on your way to helping us resist long-ago formed drives and temptations.

 

These temptations are what drives us and what drives our species. They are special, they are unique and they are sacred. Certainly as highly evolved creatures we are capable of discipline and moral servitude but those guides will always be temporary bands of strength pressing against the constant stream, the everlasting pull, the eternal temptation of the beauty that you, as women, posses. It is because of this that for millennia women’s sexuality has defined human sexuality. And this is why educated and intelligent women are better suited to Shepard sexual relationships – even that part that regards men’s wanderlust.