Buying a Penis: Women who make more than their husbands.
Well, MSNBC and CNN and the liberal media have done it again: They have systematically taken an issue that has to do with men’s current societal struggles and some how championed them or changed them into a cry-fest for women.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11322161/from/RL.1
http://money.cnn.com/2003/02/28/commentary/everyday/sahadi/
In fact, it is fitting that after researching the increasing depression rates in men who have wives that make more money than them that I should be depressed.
This is a severe issue regarding family health – as we shall see – but learning that most of the media out there have found yet another way to spin the conditions of another current gender-based societal, secular condition into yet another way for us to pity pussy – really makes me want to off myself – or at least dress drag!
It is true, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, one in three working women earn more than their husbands – wow, the femi-nazi’s at NOW (National Organization of Women) should be pleased! But, according to CNN, this really poses no particular or specific concern for men. Once again the originators of the “advice” in these columns are people with slanted interests at best.Jean Chatsky at CNN says that women are now earning more than their mates, in part, because more women than ever are going to college and getting educated. (More women than men are going to college as a whole, but to focus on that, for Chatsky and CNN, could possibly open up the idea that men are being short-changed – and that would go against their liberal agenda).
http://www.amazon.com/War-Against-Boys-Misguided-Feminism/dp/0684849569
Surely, most house-holds in today’s economy probably do appreciate the extra money – but, the column was about the struggles on a female-bread-winner based marriage not the general financial strains on Americans. And rather than investigating why men might be upset at the extra income, CNN prefers to focus on the overstressed wives who now have to work outside of the home and do house work. (It was never about men’s uneasiness with the closing wage gap or the weight it puts on families – it was always about housework! Men are still not doing enough housework! I guess a dusty coffee table does look bad for the woman – but never mind how making less money than your wife reflects on us men.)
We should not worry – Chatsky gives us the answer.She says that to best avoid any unnecessary fights we should organize our money and our house work. Specifically she says that to best deal with the struggles over income-power each spouse should get their own bank accounts – this way they know where their own money is.
She also says to talk about it, not to tip toe around the issue:
“Talk about what is happening: Yet what happens in many homes is that the situation sneaks up on couples. Men who initially expected to be the primary breadwinner find themselves outearned and, they often feel, outshined. The reaction, particularly of women — who are afraid that confronting the issue head-on will wound their already fragile husbands — is to tiptoe around it. Big mistake. Talk both about the numbers — the actual dollars — coming in the door, and how they make both of you feel.”
Are you kidding??? How do you think I feel? I feel like all of my friends and peers will laugh at me. I feel replaceable. I feel like I am not providing enough for my family – for you. I feel like I cannot pamper and spoil you. I feel worthless. I feel like I am not a good man. I feel like you are trying to grow a penis.
Oh, but it is silly for us men to worry about such trivial things like how much we make anyway (there is no evidence that women have been concerned about the pay gap in the past couple of decades). We men may just be tired of earning the most money – all that stress to perform. We might actually like to be taken care of. We might even be stuck in some horrible job we hate just because it pays more than a job we might love – CNN cites Randi Minetor, author of “Breadwinner Wives and the Men They Marry,” (New Horizon, 2002) for this one.And what about the tension that comes into a marriage where a wife makes more? That is “caused by the man’s idea of a win versus lose world”, Minetor says, not because of the actual money issue.So, if CNN is not too concerned about men’s feelings, at least they are worried about the stability of marriage right? That is what the column was about right? Not really.
Chatsky’s wasted her time when she sat on her round ass and wrote her column. She would have been much better on an assembly line somewhere or better still in the kitchen. She insists that those women who earn more are actually less committed to the marriage (I even found research that suggested that women are saving for the eventual divorce) which is probably true.
http://www.smh.com.au/articles/2006/04/19/1145344153531.html?from=rss
But she offers no real answers as to why the issues exist (with society or within men) in the first place.
The simple answer here is that for some reason in our modern, progressive society women have decided that they find it beneficial (selfishly so) to try and act like men, strive to be like men, and play the corporate game like men. That is one primary reason that women have gotten ahead of men in their earning power. The other reasons behind women’s increased earning power range form the fact that our society has catered to women in such a way as to promote that and our nation has shifted from relying on a manufacturing based economy to a consumer based one.
But there can be no reconciliation, no avoidance of conflict about this issue as long as the “experts” in the field and the women in our lives remain unable to grasp their contribution in this power struggle.Men seek power and money is power. But as long as women try to be like us, act like us, and acquire, horde and use power like us, an element of conflict will remain that will not be quenched by “talking about it” or choosing to have separate bank accounts.And we may not remain timid about this for long. It may be that you women who are getting more and more power to make choices for yourselves and even the choice to plan ahead for your divorce – but there may come a day when we men decide that we’d rather not have a wife to begin with. After all – a woman with a big and poorly placed pocket book might too easily be mistaken for a woman with a penis – and that is not a woman at all.
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